6 Things a Husband of a Homeschooler Should Never Do

static1.squarespace.comDDDD.jpg

DON'T add to her stress 
DO figure out ways to relieve her stress

  1. DON'T Compare your children with other children
    DO compare your child to their own abilities 

  2. DONT Ask her why the house is not clean or why the food is not cooked.
    DO cook/clean yourself or hire somebody to do those things

  3. DON'T sit in front of a screen when you come home because you've had a stressful day at work...You have no idea what stress is
    DO take over from her and let her have some decompression time

  4. DON'T ever question money she has spent for homeschooling stuff
    DO spend less money on your next toy instead

  5. DON'T be a wall flower when it comes to your kids' education
    DO figure out what part of their education you will own

Disclaimer: I know these DONT's well because I've done/do every single one.

How to Have Zero-Family-Guilt Long Runs (v.01)

I have been trying to incorporate my children (10 & 6) into my training for this year's Ultraman.

One thing I have been doing for the long runs is taking my six year old daughter along. So far we have managed to do this for up to two hour runs. This is how we pull it off. This works so well, that I needed to share it.

What you will need:

  • Scooter

  • A parent that doesn't mind getting "looks" from people

  • Something to tie to the scooter to pull. I have used a neck scarf and now use a body elastic weight band.

  • A child that would rather be outside than in.

  • Helmet for the child!

  • Running book bag

  • Chocolate cake 

Instructions:

  1. Plan out a run route that has long sections of pavement without the need to cross the street. The Thames path is perfect in London and running along the Hudson is perfect for NYC.

  2. Plan the run so that you can finish near a cafe so you can have some cake and hot chocolate.

  3. Bring a snack, water, and clothing options. During this past long run, we learned that it's not wise to run through a puddle :)

  4. I tie the body elastic band to the scooter and basically run. I have about 5 feet between us. 

  5. Communicate when you are stopping, turning left, or right.

  6. Expect a couple of spills, but that is normal.

  7. Don't use any headphones, the point is to be together and talk. It's also not safe.

The Positives

  • You can do your long runs without feeling guilty.

  • You get to have memorable moments with your kids while training.

  • It makes the long runs much more enjoyable.

  • Adds resistance. 

The Negatives

  • There is a lot of start and stop until you get your stride.

  • You will probably need to stop more frequently for potty breaks and snacks.

  • Sometimes they just want to go home.

The Face of Rejection (updated)

Most adults, including myself, have the same fears: fear of public speaking, fear of rejection, fear of failure, etc.

I'm not sure how and why it happens. Recently, I've noticed that my son is beginning to lose some of his fearlessness. The ability to go up to anyone and ask anything without fear of rejection.

Not sure if this is some biological instinct that gets triggered at the age of 10. Maybe it's an instinct to be careful of adults because 10,000 years ago another male adult would have taken your bison meat and stolen your wife. Again, I'm not sure.

But, what I am sure, is that I don't want my kids growing up fearing rejection and failure.

So I devised a little experiment to teach my son about rejection. Something I'm too scared to do myself. Obviously, because I don't want someone to take my bison meat and steal my wife.

I took my son for a walk around the cafes in Fulham and told him to go up to random people that he found interesting and ask them to take their portraits. His initial reaction was, "No way!" I asked, "What's the worst that could happen?" He replied, "They can say no." We discussed this possibility and agreed that that wasn't a big deal.

We agreed to a script: Hello sir/madam! Do you mind if I take your portrait for a project I'm doing?


static1.squarespace.com.jpg

At least they were alive and in person. Next, I told him that he needs to take pictures of people he doesn't know and he must get up close and personal. I showed him how by taking his portrait.

static1.squarespace.comGG.jpg

He went around and asked eight people to take their portraits. Four happily agreed and four said no. When he came back, I asked him how it felt to be rejected. He said, "It was no big deal."

We went out a couple of days later to take some more pictures. We repeated the same experiment. The only thing we added was they needed to ask the person they were photographing for their name and a piece of advice.

FGDG.JPG
FD.jpg

After Yusuf didn't want to take any more pictures,  Sulafa was taking some random pictures of flowers and a father and daughter asked her to take their portrait. We rushed to the local print store and printed them a copy of the photograph.